We all know of a person who is selling something. Or we know of a handful of people selling something. I feel like everyone I know is selling oils or cosmetic products or body wraps, weight loss supplements, cleaning supplies, vitamins or accessories. The list goes on and on.
Before I go any further I just want to say I am not knocking MLM products or the overall structure. I am not pointing at any one product and telling you not to buy it, in fact I have actually purchased some really great products from friends.
I am all about women supporting women and giving fellow moms a chance when they are trying to support their families. However, I certainly don't have the money to buy everything every single one of my friends is selling.
Saying no can become awkward. If you're like me you want to protect your friends feelings, but still be clear that you're not interested.
So just how do you do that?
1. Be supportive.
You could say something like "I think it's so great that you've started your own business but that's not really something I can do right now."
You're letting your friend know that you're proud she is creating an opportunity for herself and therefore the message is encouraging.
2. Be honest.
If you're living on a budget and there is no room to buy extras be up front with your friend. I know there can be a lot of shame in living on a budget. This is something I understand in theory, but I don't ever think you should be ashamed of sticking to your budget.
3. Be respectful.
Make it clear to your friend that you are saying no to a product and expense, not to her as a person. You still love and value her friendship, but this simply is something you cannot choose to spend money on at this point.
4. Be direct.
I am firm believer in being clear in your intentions. People are not mind readers and you have to be direct. However, directness and rudeness are NOT the same thing.
Direct is simply saying, "no thank you, this isn't something I am interested in."
Rude would be going on a tirade about consumerism or telling your friend how terrible the product is and what is wrong with the company.
5. Be prepared.
There are some people who won't take no for an answer.
If it reaches the point where you're no longer comfortable being around a person because it seems like all they see you as is a potential sale or recruitment opportunity, then it might be time to reevaluate the friendship.
What about you? How do you say no?