Getting my spouse to budget with me....

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I get this question a lot: How do I get my husband to budget? Or how do I get on the same page with my spouse? 

We all know you cannot force a grown person (or a child a lot of times...) to do something he or she just doesn't want to do. 

I am not a professional marriage counselor and Jason and I are NOT financial advisors, but I can tell you that trying to force your spouse to do something causes more damage than good and can really hurt both of you. 

So last night I sat down and talked to Jason about his thoughts on getting a couple to think in sync when it comes to finances. 

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Here is what he had to say:

1. Find some common ground. Make a list of your goals and see where they match. For us it was me getting to stay home with our kids. So we figured out what we needed to do to make that happen. 

Secondly it was buying a house. So we set our savings goals and worked towards those. We looked at what we HAD to cut to get there and we did it. 

2. Find where you can compromise. My husband gave up cable. I showed how the math and we saw that it was eating up just too much of our budget. 

However, if you're spouse is unwilling to let go of something completely see if you can find a cheaper alternative. Say, a smaller cable package. 

3. Respect the individual. Your spouse isn't you and you are not him or her. Respect that you are unique people with your own thoughts and feelings. How boring would your life be otherwise? Even if you don't agree with something your spouse wants, don't belittle that feeling or treat them like it is stupid. That just causes hurt feelings and resentment. 

For more of what Jason had to say, watch the video below. (At the end of the video he also shares his perspective on Christmas budgets and getting your kids to give.)

What do you think? Are you and your spouse on the same page? Tell me about it below!